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Being Judged by God Alone

Have you ever felt judged by another person? Perhaps something they have said cut to your heart and left you feeling as if you did not measure up? Did you respond by trying to defend yourself, by trying to prove the other person was wrong? Did you respond by getting bitter and slandering the other person later?

Being confronted is never easy. Having to face places where you might not be living according to God’s plan can feel heartbreaking. The truth is, it should be heartbreaking. I never want to have such a stone heart that it does not hurt me to hurt God. And sometimes you are confronted by someone you are sure is wrong. That can be frustrating.

We must remember, the right guilt leads to repentance, learning and growth. If we shut ourselves off from relationships close enough to speak truth into our lives we miss opportunities to strengthen faith and love for God. Your attitude about being confronted, not the truth or lack of truth spoken, will determine how helpful the confrontation is.

First and foremost, you must remember that God is your only judge. The opinions, thoughts and comments of other people have no impact on how you will be judged. The support, encouragement and trust of other people will likewise have no impact on how you will be judged. You do not have to impress anyone. You do not have to please anyone but God.

James 4:12 There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?

The second thing to remember is that if you believe you are in the right, glorifying God, then you should not feel any real concern about the comments of others. You can thank them wholeheartedly for their concern and not let it bother you.

1 Corinthians 4: 3-4 I care very little if I am judged by you or by any human court; indeed, I do not even judge myself. My conscience is clear, but that does not make me innocent. It is the Lord who judges me.

However, if you respond to someone’s comment with anger, frustration or feeling you need to justify the decisions you made or way you handled a situation then it is important to figure out why. Chances are your defenses are raised because you have been exposed.

Genesis 4:6-7 Then the LORD said to Cain, "Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it."

Being exposed is not comfortable, but it is not terrible either. Being exposed gives you the opportunity to be honest about what is going on with God and with the people in your life. Being exposed gives you the opportunity to make it right by seeking forgiveness and making restitution if necessary. Being exposed gives you the opportunity to have accountability in your efforts to make changes in your life.

During your time of pregnancy you will be challenged by many opinions about many subjects. Do not be afraid to read or talk about something you disagree with or that makes you feel uncomfortable. Listen to the concerns and opinions of others and then examine them according to the Word of God to learn the truth. Remember, it is the truth that will set you free. You will either learn that you have been living contrary to the Bible or you will be more firm in your beliefs.

The next time you feel tempted to shout, “Don’t judge me!” take a step back, examine the scriptures and let the words challenge you to examine that part of your life. In the end, you will find life much less stressful as you keep your focus not on pleasing those around you, but on pleasing God alone.